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Kids Guide to Separation & Divorce

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Kiko: Maybe you’re wondering why parents split up. When people live together and have children, they hope they will be together forever. But sometimes there are problems.

Parents separate when they can’t solve their problems together and when they are not happy together. They decide they can’t live together anymore. Parents try very hard to solve their problems and stay together. It’s not an easy decision for your parents to decide to separate or divorce.

Every couple is different. They have their own reasons for deciding not to live together. Sometimes, they just can’t get along anymore. They can’t agree on anything, and maybe they argue a lot. Maybe one of them has changed, or both have changed. This might have happened to you before. Maybe you and a good friend got interested in different things, and it didn’t feel the same anymore. Or maybe you still liked each other, but you always had big fights, so you decided to stay away from each other.

If your parents have decided not to live together anymore, there are some very important things you need to know.

Neel: You are NOT the reason for your parents splitting up! It’s NOT your fault. Kids don’t cause separation or divorce. If you had put your toys away, made your bed, done your homework, and eaten your broccoli every night without being told, they still would have decided not to live together anymore. It’s NOT your fault! It’s also not your job to get them back together by being extra good.

Michael: Another thing you need to know is that you are not alone. Thousands of kids have normal lives after their parents’ separation and divorces every year. You will too! Parents divorce each other, not their child.

Skye: Your parents are your parents forever. They will always love you and take care of you even if they don’t live together anymore.